Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Forgiveness and Anger and Regaining Control


Forgiveness is a hard topic for me to discuss because I myself have a very hard time forgiving others who have wronged the ones I love and myself since I tend to take things so personally. I’m sure many out there have the same problem so I have gathered up some inspirational sayings about forgiveness and anger, etc. I hope you find this beneficial.

Forgiveness is part of carrying your cross. Forgiveness is letting go of the negative emotions that keep our energy and our thoughts tethered to the past, and keep us from progressing forward. Forgiveness, mercy, and not judging are all related. Forgiveness is the right choice to make, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ve forgotten what has happened. forgiveness isn’t a statement "I forgive" but to really not let the matter bother you anymore. Forgiveness may feel like letting our offender off the hook without punishment. Forgiveness is love practiced among people who love poorly. Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and/or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. Forgiveness removes the blocks to seeing the eternal goodness in, and unity and equality with, one’s brother. Forgiveness removes the fog obscuring the reflection of God within others, which leads to the same sight within ourselves. Forgiveness is simply a decision to let go of our regrets and our own view of justice.


Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, and yet in many ways they are very similar. Anger becomes a part of how others view you. Anger can make you yell or scream at those around you, even people you like or love. Anger and resentment take you away from love. Anger is one of the most common and destructive delusions, and it afflicts our mind almost every day. Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. Anger is a serious emotion, but it's often accompanied by ideas that, if examined, can make you laugh. Anger is a temporary emotional state caused by frustration; aggression is often an attempt to hurt a person or to destroy property. Anger can be a vicious cycle and spiral out of control despite the fact that you truly do not want to be angry. Anger can be a tool to motivate us to change our circumstances if we’re not happy with them. In my experience anger tends to manifest only because of the fear of being injured or hurt once again. Forgiveness is a Grace given to remove animosity and anger from our souls so as not to let those poisons spread and muddle our relationship with God.

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