Monday, March 29, 2010

The Source of Anger

The source of many of you feel anger...I know I do and I try not to let it get the best of me. Here are some thoughts on angry, perhaps it will get you to think the next time you get angry...

"Anger is that powerful internal force that blows out the light of reason."

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

How does anger typically surface in your life?

We usually get angry at someone, don't we? We judge that someone has done something wrong and we want them to be punished.

In truth, the actions of others are never to blame. It's our thinking - our blaming and judgment - that causes the anger. And we blame and judge because we have a need that has not been met.

In his book 'Nonviolent Communication,' Marshall B. Rosenberg advises that rather than blame others, we are better served by directing our energy towards meeting our own needs.

He offers a simple tool for change. Instead of saying, I am angry because they ... we can say, I am angry because I am needing ....

"At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled."

-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

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